JUNE 29, 2017 by MEGAN MURRAY
When someone asks you to describe yourself what do you think of first? Your name, your job, or maybe your hobbies. But do these things really explain who you are or show your personality? Not really. As a writer at the popular online dating site Zoosk, I’ve read countless online dating profiles examples for women and men. Some have been good, others, well, not so much. But along the way I’ve learned a lot about what does and doesn’t work.
These online dating profile examples for women will show you a few ways to use the normal details of your life to create a profile that’s different, unique, and a more accurate depiction of who you are. As you write your own profile, use them for inspiration and keep these tips in mind.
Bill Murray Movies. Adventures. Fancy Cheese. If you like any of these three things, we’ll get along great. If you like all three, you could just be the love of my life. Either way, I’m a fun-loving girl who’s new to the city and looking to meet some nice people. If you’d like to get together sometime, send me your favorite Bill Murray quote and we can start chatting.
I like my artsy with a little bit of fartsy. I love Sundays spent drinking massive amounts of coffee and lingering over newspapers and comics (yes, I read comics). And my Friday nights? Well you’ll just have to wait and see won’t you? Favorite Movie: An American Tale: Fievel Goes West. What can I say? I love that damn mouse and always had a thing for cowboys. Favorite Place: The fort I made in my basement when I was 11. My parents let me keep that thing up for a full eight months and it was magic. Favorite Food: Cheetos. Puffs. I don’t know what y’all are thinking with that crunchy crap.
You know that person in your group of friends who is always planning something but maybe gets a little too crazy about it sometimes? Well, that’s me. I’m an event planner by trade and love everything about it. Putting together experiences for people is great, but I like to create my own too! Perfect dates are going for a hike, followed by a visit to a new local brewery or trying a new dinner spot and taking a walk nearby. I work hard during the week, fill my weekends with activities, and definitely can be a big ball of energy at times. I’m looking for a guy who can keep up and keep me on my toes.
Tip #1: Details Details Details
If you want to help someone get a sense of who you are, it’s the little things that really count. Out of all our tips, my number one (for men and woman) is to add details to your profile. You can say you love to cook or you can share your go-to dish or talk about a recipe you’re experimenting with. One makes you sound like everyone else, the other makes you stand out. It’s the details that make your profile come alive.
Tip #2: Give Them an In
This next tip is especially for women—If you add a question or a conversation starter for the person looking at your profile to message you about, it can really help someone break the ice and message you first. It’s hard coming up with ways to start a conversation that aren’t the same tired, “Hi, how are you tonight?” messages. So help people out! Tell them to share their favorite book, tell you the last hike they went on, or to elaborate on something you’re interested in. You’ll get a lot more messages and have better conversations.
Tip #3: Lists Are Your Friend
If you’re not the best writer in the world, try listing out your hobbies, facts about yourself, or your favorite things. Lists are an effective and quick way to get your personality across that’s easy for other people to read and scan. Plus, they’re kind of fun and give people way more things to start a conversation with you about.
Shiny things distract me, people-watching is a favorite pastime, I live for the moments you can’t put into words, and few things transcend a cup of coffee and someone to share it with. On the weekends you can usually find me in a friend’s backyard, drinking a beer and waiting for something good to come off the grill but I love to use my Sundays to get out and exercise and get ready for the week ahead too.
“Some people never go crazy. What truly horrible lives they must lead.” -Charles Bukowski
I’m an outgoing lady who loves nightlife, weekend adventures, dancing, karaoke (I do an amazing Carrie Underwood), getting out on the lake, and meeting new people. I probably change my mind about a thousand times a day and will keep you on your toes, but I like to think I’m worth it. For one, I’m an amazing cook if I do say so myself, and love to try out new recipes. There’s just nothing better then getting creative and making something that you can also eat. It’s the best kind of art.
Just a small town girl, living in a lonely world… That’s right, I’m a local girl. Born and raised. I moved away to the city for a while for work but couldn’t be happier to be back in town with a new gig and a bit more experience behind me. I absolutely love sports and am happiest when I’m outside making myself tired. Whether it’s playing in a softball league, going for a morning run, playing soccer in the backyard with my two boys, or tossing the football around, I’m all about it.
Tip #4: Go Ahead and Get a Little Weird
With so many people out there, you want to stand out from the crowd so don’t be afraid to showcase what’s ‘weird’ or different about you. Do you have an odd laugh? Freak out at scary movies? Are you blunt and to-the-point? Let people know! Even if it turns some people off, you’ll turn the right person on. Like Dr. Seuss once said, “We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” Which brings me to my next tip…
Tip #5: Use a Quote
If you have a favorite quote or song lyric, add it in. Quotes can be a great way to get your personality across and show people what you believe in without having to explain it all yourself. Still not sure what to say? Check out our list of over 100 online dating profile quotes for some ideas.
Tip # 6: Give the What and the Why
Don’t just say what you love, say why you love it. It’s easy to say you love hiking or being outside, but telling people that you love the outdoors because seeing a mountain makes you feel small and insignificant, but in a good way or that hiking helps you push yourself to your limits, helps them get to know who you really are and makes your description more compelling and unique.
About me huh… Well, I’d probably smile and say hi to you if we were strangers passing on the street. I believe in kindness, empathy, holding open doors, putting your phone away at dinner, and always making time to listen to a friend. And to throw you a loop… I’m really into the worst kind of horror movies, just the really really bad ones. Guts. Gore. All of it. If you’ve ever heard of Suspiria, please message me right now because we need to talk.
Sometimes I feel like I’m an amature everything. I cook, road bike, paint occasionally, blog even less often, love snow sports, and am always looking to try new things and learn new things… but I never really master anything! I like to think that makes my resume diverse, but you can give me a hard time about it if you’d like. If you can quote Neil Gaiman, keep up with me on a road bike, and show me something I haven’t tried before you should definitely message me.
You should probably know that I somehow manage to spill guacamole on myself every time I eat it, which is often. If you can get past that, you’ll probably enjoy getting to know me. I’m a nurse practitioner and I absolutely love my job and my patients. It’s hard work, but I bring a lot of energy to what I do and always have some leftover to get into trouble on the weekends at my fav. local bar. (If you play your cards right, maybe we can meet there.)
Tip #7: Leave Them Wanting More
In the past, online dating profiles read almost like a resume—the point was to outline everything about yourself like you were writing a long cover letter. Now things have changed and you don’t need to say a lot in order to attract the right person. In fact, it’s better if you don’t. Your profile is a preview of who you are, not the whole picture. Give people a reason to message you to learn more.
Tip #8: Be More Than One Thing
If you love your job, you should definitely talk about it but make sure that’s not ALL you talk about. Same goes for your hobbies and even your kids or family. You’re more than one thing, there’s a lot that goes into what makes you who you are. So make sure your profile reflects that!
Tip #9: Get a Little Silly
Trying to be funny while writing is hard, but one of the most attractive things for both men and women is someone who has a good sense of humor and can be fun. Don’t feel like you have to tell an actual joke, but try sharing something silly or a little weird about yourself. It doesn’t have to be hilarious, but a light-hearted anecdote can go a long way towards showing people that you’re a fun, friendly, and approachable person.
Lately I’ve been really into Paulo Coelho novels. I read The Alchemist when I was in college but I’m excited to find that his other stuff is amazing too. If you have any book recommendations, send them my way. I’m a voracious reader and love talking books. Currently, working on my master’s in education and living downtown, which I love. Live music is one of my other weaknesses. I’ll see just about anyone but lately I’ve been checking out the free Thursday shows at Greyson’s.
I’ve been traveling throughout South America for the past three years, after working for Americorp teaching English. Getting to know so many other people and cultures has been a truly amazing experience but… I missed home! So now I’m back with more stories to tell and a whole lot of decisions to make about what I want to do next. It’s an exciting time and I’m stoked to soak up more experiences and get to know more people. Plus, I cannot tell you how much I missed a good burger. Delicious!
Ok, I’m not sure what to say but here are some fun facts for you:
– My dad was a military man and I couldn’t be prouder to be his daughter.
– I plan to open my own business in the next year or so.
– Once I ate a whole watermelon by myself because of a friend’s dare. It was surprisingly hard.
– My favorite beer is whatever IPA is on tap.
– I’m a cat person. They’re just so independent and furry.
– I really don’t have a type. As long as you have something interesting to say, I want to hear it.
-I’m a little old fashioned. If you open a door for me, I will melt.
Tip #10: Put Your Passion Out There
Some of the best dating profiles I’ve seen are profiles where the person opens up about things they’re passionate about. Maybe it’s about her dog or kids, maybe it’s her job or a favorite book, sports team, or restaurant—when someone can’t help but get passionate about something it’s interesting and attractive. Put yourself out there and don’t be afraid to open up or geek out about something you love.
Tip #11: Keep Conversation in Mind
Your profile isn’t just your first impression, in many ways it’s also the beginning of the conversation you’ll have with someone. If someone’s interested in messaging you, they’ll often go to your profile to find clues and hints of what to talk about, so as you’re writing about yourself think of things you could bring up that will make it easier for someone to come up to you. Whether it’s a favorite book, your relationship with your family, or the fact that you’re planning a vacation, little details they can ask you more about or comment on will make you more approachable.
Tip #12: If You Have a Story, Tell It
If you’ve been on an adventure, are in the middle of a life-change, or have had some experiences that are worth sharing, go for it! Maybe you’ve moved to a new city, recently changed careers, are going back to school, just became a grandparent, or had your kids graduate and leave home. Chances are there are other people out there going through the same thing and you’ll have something to talk about.
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