Dating & Relationships

Dating & Relationships

with Juan Santos, M.S., CRC, LPC

What Are The 5 Love Languages For Couples

By Juan Santos M.S., CRC, LPC 
Last updated: 30 Apr 2018


Learn How To Apply The Five Love Languages:

I’m sure that you have heard of the five love languages. If not, I want to share a spark note quality reminder. As you read over the five love languages take time to evaluate your relationship with the following questions:

  • Are you directly utilizing each of the five love languages?
  • Are you aware of your love language?
  • Are you aware of what your partner needs to do, in “detail”, to spear your love language?
  • Are you aware of your partner’s love language?
  • Are you aware of what you need to do me speak your partner’s love language in “detail”?

Words of affirmation. You guessed it, these are words that provide affirmation. For instance, when one partner tells the other “I hear you”, “I love you”, I value your time”, or “I value you”.

Quality time. This is my love language. I love spending time with my partner. A time that highlights undivided attention and focus. Quality time emphasis providing focus and attention while avoiding neglectful like behaviors.

Acts of service. If this is your love language, then you appreciate the support. Acts of service are often defined by lending a hand, helping to clean the house, doing a favor, or going out of your way to provide help. An example would be if one partner changes the car oil for their partner as an act of kindness.

Receiving gifts. For these people, they prefer receiving tangible gifts that highlight two components, meaningful and thoughtful. A close peer of mine shared that to them, examples would include: making a handmade gift or receiving a picture of a past positive moment.

Physical touch. These individuals appreciate touch. It’s not solely based on sexual pleasures such as intercourse. A person whose love language is physical touch often enjoys acts that include: holding hands, kissing, hugs, or even a simple rub on legs while watching a movie.

As you read over the five love languages, I want to remind you that healthy relationships take time to identify ways to express all five of the love languages while also understanding how to appropriately and effectively provide the favorable one.

I have a few questions for you.

  • When was the last time you truly evaluated your partners love language?
  • When was the last time you asked your partner if you are meeting their love language?

In my work, as a relationship counselor, I help couples find answers to these very question through the relationship building course. It’s a course for couples that desire to improve their relationship.

It’s that simple.

If you want a better relationship. A healthier, more intimate, less chaotic relationship. Take the course.

The relationship course includes 4 lessons and 11 exercises. The lessons are divided into 9 guided sections. 3 Bonus materials are included as well as a copy of my latest relationship workbook book Couples Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work.


Juan Santos M.S., CRC, LPC

Mr. Juan Santos is a professional counselor, private practice consultant and book author who specializes in relationship stability and understanding separation indicators. He has conducted hundreds of couples counseling sessions. Mr. Santos is the creator of two successful relationship strengthening courses: “A Marriage Preparation Course: For Premarital Couples” and “The Relationship Building Course: For struggling couples”. He is the author of the following self-help psychology books: Couples Workbook: Making Your Relationship Work; 100 Ways Married Men Can Remain Emotionally Connected; Life Without Stress, My Journal, and Parenting Education for Hispanic Families. Mr. Santos is the owner of Santos Counseling PLLC a counseling private practice located in Greensboro and Winston-Salem, NC. Mr. Santos is currently completing his doctoral studies at the University of the Cumberlands. He spends his time away from work with his family enjoying the great outdoors.

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