Flirting With Someone New
Flirting Rules For Girls
Never reveal any information that you acquired from Facebook stalking them.
This one really isn’t just a rule for girls, it definitely goes both ways. We all stalk people on social media, there’s no use in denying it anymore. But when you’re starting to flirt with a new love interest, avoid bringing up their 2007 trip to the Bahamas with their family because you saw it on their Facebook profile from 10 years ago.
Don’t freak out if you see the guy you’re flirting with flirting with someone else.
A lot of girls, myself included, can admit that in the past they’ve started flirting with someone new and then were shocked when we saw them flirting with someone else. Try not to take it personally, it’s just flirting! Try not to be too possessive over them and know that he’s free to flirt with as many people as he likes and so are you.
Don’t text them multiple times in a row if they don’t text you back after the first one.
This is a big rule that a lot of people preach when dating someone new. If they don’t answer your first text it’s probably acceptable if you send another one, either to add more information or just to check in again. If they don’t answer that one definitely don’t send them multiple messages until they answer, that’s just pushing it.
It’s okay to tease them a little bit, but just don’t be mean.
Everyone likes to be teased at least a little bit by the person they like. It’s our subtle way of showing we’re interested but playful at the same time. The trick is not to push your playful teasing into the mean side of teasing. Don’t tell them stuff about them that you don’t like or that is annoying, that’s just mean territory.
Flirting Rules For Guys
Get close to her and touch her subtly, but don’t go overboard.
It’s always a good way to show a girl you’re interested by subtly touching her or getting close. Lean in when she speaks to you, touch her knee if she says something funny or arm. But don’t get too close, you are just flirting after all. She’ll think you’re a little creepy if you can’t keep your hands off her the entire time you’re talking.
Don’t flirt with their friends to make them jealous, that never, EVER works.
I have no idea why some people think this is a good idea when you’re flirting with someone new. People are generally insecure when flirting, so if you go and flirt with their best friend, it only makes this insecurity worse. It also makes a girl think you’re not actually interested in her, which is clearly the opposite of what you want.
Be honest, don’t pretend to be something you’re not.
If you don’t like that TV show she’s talking about, don’t pretend like you do just to find something in common with her. The same goes for girls as well. This rule can also apply to what you’re looking to accomplish with this relationship. Do you just want a hookup? Friends with benefits? A real relationship? If she asks you, don’t lie and tell her what she wants to hear, be honest!
Compliment her, but don’t be creepy about it.
Try to avoid complimenting her body as much as possible. If you can’t think of an intellectual way to give her a nice compliment, tell her she has nice eyes. Girls love to hear that and we won’t think you’re being creepy. But you can always tell her she has a nice laugh or that you like being around her. Whatever feels right.